So now I want to thank everyone that has supported me here. It's been a blast and I invite you to follow me there as I grow. So please don't forget. I am not closing up shop. Just moving.
Ok. so some of you that I said I had a big announcement but this is part of it.
Guest blogging. that and now I am part of a syndicate..The Queer Syndicate It's like your favorite shows joined up to make up on their own channel. I was in invited by Lex a.k.a Mutant Panda. If you haven't read his blog I urge you to do so. His blog is one of those blogs that you set up on your DVR and then you watch it without interruptions in a collection. SO awesome. He's a man, a husband, a father, an artist, who happens to be bisexual and just happens to be fucking awesome. The OTHER big one is later on this week. Work has been getting hectic yadda yadda yadda ANYWAYS!
Well let me get this intro thing over with. Timea Quon is an awesome writer. She is that one writer that you read you can see why she why it's going to be hard for her to be famous. She's too good for the main stream. In a western world of Kardashians, Snookis, Bad Girls Club with disposable liquor, and Barbie wannabe. She instantly comes off as that girl you see in a John Hughes the movie that the protagonist should be dating. She's Lady Ducky if you would. She can out drink you, out smoke you and of course with her heart , out love you. A real life Tank Girl with 20% more grit~n~awesomeness and someone I have the honor to feature on my blog. Hopefully it won't be her last. If it wasn't her folks I wouldn't be writing this blog..at all. She inspired me to start this thing. Seriously.
I asked to write about her experiences dating as a post-op woman. Not gonna cut into her stage time too much.
No pics for flare, just raw ass writing
Before she kicks off just one more thing. You want to submit something just email me. I think You kinda get the stuff I want. You want to keep it anonymous well...duh..no prob. Don't need a blog either. Just submit your stuff.
So without further ado..Timea Quon
I can’t really comprehend why I would be offering insight on the topic of being a post operative transwoman in the dating world.True I’m a post operative transwoman and yes I have been seriously dating the love of my life for the past six months.But fact is I am in no way an authority on dating and relationships.Partly because I haven’t really had much experience in that realm but mostly because I find dating nauseating.Granted finding love and traversing this landscape has been nothing short of wonderful and the total opposite of sickening but all past experiences, however limited they maybe, were akin to a really dry rogering by an over enthusiastic line backer.None too pleasant, despite what you may have heard....
When I first decided on having surgery to become “female bodied” I was confronted with hesitancy and adversity from those around me.Mostly if not all out of concern for my well being.The number one reason put forth to try to dissuade me from having the surgery was in regards to relationships and potential partners.It was pointed out rather enthusiastically that commonly transwomen experience better success finding partners (particularly male ones) when they are pre or non operative.It was like a disclaimer before an adult oriented television show.Viewer discretion is advised and also, dudes will dig you more if you keep your junk.I was naturally defiant and retorted every time about the idiocy of that belief.If I identify as a straight chick and want to date dudes naturally I shouldn’t encounter problems if I fit the mould of what said dudes typically look for.In other words, Scarlett Johansson.Truth be told I was so fucking wrong all I can do is laugh.Laugh and sob.Then laugh some more.Then sob, then drink, then laugh and then I don’t remember what happens.
See, the sad fact is that being trans is almost always going to go hand in hand with loathing yourself in some way.It’s a broad statement and kinda harsh but sadly very true.From personal experience and from discussion with other trans folk that feeling of self loathing is a major motivator, duh.Obviously if you’re born in the wrong body and forced to confine yourself to the wrong shaped box and present to the world as something you’re not you’ll reach a point where it is gut wrenching to even look in the mirror or utter your own name.And when you loathe yourself so much for so long it becomes habitual.You make it a part of your daily routine.And even when you rectify that error that was at the forefront of your mind for so long you still have a tendency to look at yourself with disdain from time to time (some more than others).To be confronted with this fact that I may have supposedly shot myself in the foot was a trifle alarming to say the least.
After the 100th dude questioning why I would cut off the best thing about me I really started to ponder if I was in fact doomed to spinster hood for the rest of my life and subsequently started planning what shade of tabby I would adopt to start my vast collection of cat children I would in turn release into the night to exact my wrath on douchebag A through Z.I took one of two possible routes and that was totally secluding myself away and accepting that nobody would ever give two shits about me and that all physical contact would be relegated to random drunken one night stands with dudes who would be blissfully aware I used to have a schlong.And this was comforting for about an hour til I realized I was in no way girly enough to both entice dudes into one night stands and keep them ignorant that I wasn’t like most girls.Sad but true.
The other route was the all too splendid manner of settling.Not for 2nd best but generally just settling for whatever came along that was A) human and B) breathing.I’ve seen it happen many times.A beautiful example of humanity, a kind heart who just happens to be trans and sees it as a shortcoming and reason to settle for the one who cheats left right and centre only to come home and verbally (and many times physically) abuse them.
Such a wealth of options as you can tell.Not being a quitter I found my resolve and opted back into the dating world choosing to ignore what society (and family and friends) told me as well as the bad taste left in my mouth by the aforementioned 100 dudes.Men were open, men were receptive and approaching me.Shit was easy I tell you what.This was promising, perhaps I could be choosey, perhaps I could meet the “one”.
The results were less than stellar.
In one month I was stood up 3 times by 3 different dudes who later offered little to no explanation ranging from “something came up” to “oh I didn’t think you wanted a boyfriend”.
Assholes.
The following month after interacting online for weeks and really clicking with one gent I was crestfallen to have him go on vacation to Brazil and seemingly NEVER return.YEAH.One week in the tropics and just drop off the face of the earth.It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to see that I was played but a (not too) small part of me really hopes he was eaten by a giant snake which then rejected his emulsified corpse leaving him to be defecated and violated by Capybara. A month later I met a dude who unfathomably was into me unconditionally, did not see my trans identity or the fact I was super tomboyish as a shortcoming.
It was splendid, it was thrilling, he was moving the next week to South America.Now tell me what the fuck is with dudes either travelling or moving to South America?This one was flirty though and said he could easily fall for me if he had time. I took this to mean we could stay in touch and possibly develop something.He blocked me and stopped responding to messages.
Needless to say my confidence level by now wasn’t too high.And the whole time amidst my rage and emotional agony I kept insisting that all the shit slung my way was because I was transgendered.I began to loathe myself even more and was fast on the path of self destruction until it dawned on me that what I was experiencing was not selective of trans people and only trans people.What I was experiencing was common ground for every man or woman, queer or straight.It was called living and growing and experiencing.And in an odd way was a great blessing because it taught me to not only embrace my unique quality as a transwoman but to also accept it as commonplace in my life and no more a defining aspect than my brown hair or body weight.It was just one of many traits that combined with the rest made up a whole that is bad ass and worthy of a perfect fit for me and me alone.
Ultimately this is the realization all trans people need to reach: that you will have a rough go of it but much of what you experience is experienced by others just in a different form and variety.What doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger and I guarantee some asshole not calling back isn’t going to kill you.Some douchebag saying you’re a subpar wannabe woman with a Frankenstein cunt isn’t going to kill you.It’ll sting and it’ll chap your ass but you can and will rise above it to find greatness.
Greatness for me comes from Oklahoma.Perfection in the form of a human being who is beautiful and sincere and loving unconditionally of me with no regards to my being a trans person.He recognizes it as just one of many traits that makes up the whole he loves.And I offer that love back to him.Corny as fuck but it’s true.The diamond in the rough.In the long run you just have to accept you’re not every persons cup of tea but there are folks who will come to appreciate you as is, be it pre op or post op or non op or genderqueer or intersex.Same for being tall, short, fat, skinny, any colour of the rainbow etc.Seek and you will find and just try to enjoy the ride.And avoid men with a penchant for travelling to South America.
Courage wolf liked he last post so much he wanted in again
Seriously guys and by guys I mean the men. He's pissed. He's tired of guys being afraid of being rejected. I mean...he threatened.. threatening me to read it to you. *sigh* here we go
Look here you little fucks! You are afraid of telling people you are dating that you are bisexual, pansexual, potsexual, omnisexual, novasexual or whatever you shit fucks are calling yourselves nowadays? Then you don't deserve to fuck much less breed! Afraid they are gonna jump you after school by the monkey bars? Bring a bat ans some lube so you can smack their shit up. It's hard? Did I just hear you whine that it's hard? NO SHIT IS HARD! ANYTHING WORTH DOING IS HARD! My uncircumcised wolf dick is hard and it's worth doing you spineless sack of shit! You think you got it bad? People use to get arrested for having gay sex.A-FUCKING-RESTED! You would have been certifiable insane. Yes..your half & half ass wold have been in Arkham with The Joker and Two-Face! Don't play the martyr in this society! Ain't no tissue for ya brah! No one is shedding a tear! "But but Courage wolf Kurt said on Glee “Bisexual is a term that gay guys in high school use when they want to hold hands with girls and feel like a normal person for a change." Well so the shit what? On Buddy TV dot com That neck-bearded bastard John Kubicek said
"But more importantly, I learned that Kurt and I have something in common: we both think male bisexuality is a myth. Blaine's very brief experimentation with kissing girls prompted Kurt to defensively respond that "Bisexual is a term that gay guys in high school use when they want to hold hands with girls and feel like a normal person for a change." And I completely agree.
Blaine's actions in this episode were ridiculous and, if anything, a dangerous message to send to gay teens. According to Blaine, the only way to know for sure that you're gay is to kiss a girl and see what happens. This flies against everything Glee has ever stood for in terms of being true to yourself. "
So the shit what? You think life should be dictated by a bunch of fictional teenagers? Don't like it? Watch and support a better show!
If you don't want to watch that go make your own! Don't like view in the back of the bus? Walk Walk YOU BETTA WALK WALK
Lyrics
If you miss me at the back of the bus, and you can't find me nowhere.
Come on up to the front of the bus, I'll be sittin' right there.
I'll be sittin' right there,
I'll be sittin' right there.
Come on up to the front of the bus,
I'll be sittin' right there.
ill slap you right nowwwwww u little dog
If you miss me at the Mississippi River, and you can't find me nowhere.
Come on over to the swimmin' pool, I'll be swimmin' over there.
I'll be swimmin' over there,
I'll be swimmin' over there.
Come on over to the swimmin' pool,
I'll be swimmin' over there.
If you miss me at Jackson State, and you can't find me nowhere.
Come on over to Old Miss, I'll be learnin' right there.
I'll be learnin' right there,
I'll be learnin' right there.
Come on over to Old Miss,
I'll be learnin' right there.
If you miss me at the picket lines, and you can't find me nowhere.
Come on down, to the jailhouse, I'll be roomin' over there.
I'll be roomin' over there,
I'll be roomin' over there.
Come on down to the jailhouse,
I'll be roomin' over there.
If you miss me at the cotton fields, and you can't find me nowhere.
Come on down to the court house, I'll be votin' right there.
I'll be votin' right there,
I'll be votin' right there.
Come on down to the courthouse,
I'll be votin' right there.
If you miss me at the back of the bus, and you can't find me nowhere.
Come on up to the front of the bus, I'll be sittin' up there.
I'll be sittin' up there,
I'll be sittin' up there.
Come on up to the front of the bus,
I'll be sitting' up there
So you wanna keep watching keep complaining that no one is gonna take you seriously, that no one is gonna accept you? Git from the back of the fucking bus and go walk proud!
Well, Tell us how you really feel, Courage Wolf! DAMN!
email me here for questions or anything pertain to my articles until things are rectified.
Ok..so I am cleaning up and getting things ready for my move to WordPress. Manure got real son. Ok ok...for this post....no more pony references. Seriously...I bet you were expecting a "Right after this one...nope...no ponies. More
I was asked by this cool guy on facebook paraphrasing here. "When is a good time to come out as bi to a potential mate? Women seem to not dig it." There are a few schools of thought.
I ususally don't post a video but this woman said it best. This is EXACTLY how I feel about what happened with Chrissy Lee Polis. I do hope McDonald pay for her medical bills and ear lobe surgery just as a sign of goodwill. that being said..wathc the video after the jump
You know..I am gonna do this from now on.
Take a day and just post up somebody's else's video. Someone that I think is awesome.
If you have a video or you know of a video you would like me to have on my blog email it to me
Ok I haven't been blogging for awhile...I know this. What's going on? Was it just me getting my grip~n~sip on while watching ponies? Partially yes I admit it.
Mostly ponies....
My older brother is into it now...he still won't admit it.
Yes the are other reasons...some parts were me seeing what lie was like outside my blog. I have been looking at other blogs & I gotta tell you there is some really REALLY messed up stuff out there.
Like seriously...
People are just angry at the wrong people and even worse they don't even have anything else planned except be angry all the time. Even worse they try to encourage anger in others.
It can put a person...like myself in a tizzy & mess up your entire day. I am no exception
It did hurt :(
But you know what...it was necessary. I learned some things. I learned a LOT I learned a lot about myself..about things I thought I knew and I learned a lot about you. I learned that yes Friendship does work to chase the Parasprites away. What are Parasprites? Sounds like a good excuse for a pony break
Yes..cute little sprites that devour your resources. Be it time, energy, hope etc
I had t summon everything within me to get all those parasprite out of my mind
I'M FIRIN' MA LAZAAAA!!!
It's really really REALLY sad that a person can be so tormented that they only want to stay in their little corner of the world and not explore. I mean beauty is all over this planet! But some people want to stay bitter even when they have something beautiful right in front of them.
It's pink cotton candy! SMILE DAMMIT!
Now...my pretties...my beautiful pretties
This snapshot of my stats were taking of 8 am EST
Oh and EL Salvador & Malaysia for some reason aren't on there which is messed up
At least one in each of those countries are super sweet.
Yes...that's you up there! Look at you all! You're some hot people! 4 of you are rocking Nokias & 3 of you are rocking Palms! By the way..I have no idea what your address is. I don't know who youare I will not be surprising you & raiding your fridge. Nor would I ever divulge your identity. Unless I was invited then I would bring over some delicious food.
Ok..let me get back to what I was talking about
I'm moving...
Yes.. I am moving to word press and getting my own domain name. It's a big step for me & I wanted thank each and everyone thus far for being here with me as I talk about things from a bisexual male's point of view. This has been a great journey and it's only going to get better.
Before I get into the why or anything else I just want to thank EVERYONE of my readers once again. Some I know by name. Some comment and some don't which is fine (ohhh I wish you DIIIIID just so I can hear you which reminds me I need to comment on more blogs)
All of you are so beautiful in each & every way. I really REALLY mean that. Each time I hear a thank you it invigorates me. You will never know how much your words, your comments mean to lil ol me.
Ok...back to the moving thing?
Why the move? Well think of it this way: Blogger is a great apartment but WordPress is an awesome house.
I have really big plans. What plans you ask?
Book reviews and movie reviews for one: Some books A lot of them are going to be Teen books some will be adult but out of those books it's going to be mostly fictions. Something entertaining. The movies I will review will be older movies. movies like this
I will also do any stray Manga or Anime that might come up. Nothing ecchi I promise.
If you have any suggestions please feel free to drop me a list of suggestions.
Hey...it's a big world.
I am going to add...VIDEO! YUUUUP!! video people! Yeeep as in you will hear my voice and possibly see me on camera.
I am also going to add a few more things which is..get this...awards!
Awards to who I feel should get awards. I am NOT gonna wait for others to do it. someone has to make them..I'll do it! I thought about calling them the beegees but...you know...yeah...
That is a bigger part of the reason why I am not. I am also organizing a super secret project. shh!!! It's a secret!
A lot of other stuff. in the meantime I will be cross posting blogs. A lot of good blogs out there. and since I have all this space...why not!!!!
So...right...not dead....not giving p on the bog...just fixing things up...veeeeery carefully.
If you have an idea for a book or movie to review I'll take a gander.
Just email me at askabisexualguy at gmail dot com If I don't answer immediately it might have went to spam. So don't feel bad. just tag me again.
Much love to you all! Especially you!
Ask A Bisexual Guy
* instead of calling me A.B.G. for short you can call me Abe if it makes it easier.
I am trying to work on a few pieces at the same time. One of them being A dating guide for bisexual men on dating other men. It's a touchy subject for me & with the poop Shit storm of the quarter happening with my friends which I am dragged into by sheer guilt & devotion. Painful distraction after painful distraction for about a month actually. (God a whole month...I need to get my shit together )
I am a big old geek, not a nerd...but a geek and if you just don't wanna click that link. PICTURE!!
Where was I going with this? Oh yeah! SO I am a big ol geek and I love me some internetz. I once in awhile go to different message boards and try to dive into the geek world or the muggle world. Who is doing this amd what blog is doing what. And I discovered something totally awesome..Are you ready for it?
MYLITTLE PONY!
Why are these ponies so awesome? What's the big deal? ell It all starts with a lil Imageboard called 4CHAN
Never heard of it? Do you remember last summer about a little girl named Jessi Slaughter? Go read up on her and 4CHAN. I'll wait
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Crazy stuff right? SO one of the things that is known on the internet is you do not FUCK with B/ Not ever..just period. Now somehow (answer right here ) My Little Pony or MLP took 4Chan in a storm. for about a month straight. Mind you. they get banned every 5 minutes but keep coming back. The argueent is that There is nothing but sex, porn, and other things bad on there why not some cute little ponies? But again and again these B/astards kept fighitng. and the MLP lovers on 4CHAN now calling themselves
B/rony or B/ronies do not give up. But they never gave up.
These B/ronies kept going and going 2 hours a day from all around. Everypony chipped in got banned and guess what?
Never has 4CHAN been attacked before from within and especially B/ of all places!
What were the rules for the B/ronies?
Current rules for MLP threads:
Do:
-Keep all MLP related content within the current largest MLP thread
-Actually discuss the show
-Ignore any threads speaking negatively about the show
Do NOT:
-Post any MLP material in any thread not explicitly about MLP (reaction images, avatars, macros, quotes, phrases such as everypony/brony/etc) -Post threads to speak negatively about MLP or reply to threads speaking negatively about MLP
-Post any MLP material on other boards
-Bump MLP threads just to keep them bumped
-Report MLP threads where users are staying in one thread
Did you see the underlined? Do NOT Post threads to speak negatively about MLP or reply to threads speaking negatively about MLP
Do you get that? Ignore the haters. IGNORE THE HATERS IGNORE THE FUCKING HATERS!! Why should we ignore all of these Savages?
Yes...they always do But something remarkable happened.
People stopped judging the show & watched it. The word spread. Guess what happened?
Fans emerged. The toughest women & the hardest of hardcore liked the show
Yes...and of course the hate became stronger ...
and more violent
But what did they do?
Why?
Because they redid their rules. They stopped playing by the old rules & made new rules
I mean look at number 1. Ok we all see number 10 it's an inside pony joke.
Thou Shall Live by the Code of Friendship Love & Tolerance.
Imagine if we all did that? What if we just fought back with hugs?
I mean we did it before? right?
Remember these anybody?
"In October 1967, Hoffman and Jerry Rubin helped organize the March on the Pentagon using Flower Power concepts to create a theatrical spectacle.[14] The idea included a call for marchers to attempt to levitate the Pentagon. When the marchers faced off against more than 2500 Army national guard troops forming a human barricade in front of the Pentagon, demonstrators placed flowers in the soldier's rifle barrels.[15]
Flower Power, a Pulitzer-nominated photograph by Washington Star photographer Bernie Boston, became a classic image of the Vietnam War–era protests.[16] The photo, taken on October 21, 1967 at the "March on the Pentagon", showed a young, long-haired man in a turtleneck sweater, placing carnations into the rifle barrels of military policemen. (The young man in the photo was not named by Boston and his identity is disputed. He was most commonly identified as George Edgerly Harris III, an 18-year-old actor from New York who later performed in San Francisco under the stage name ofHibiscus.[17] The young man also has been identified by Paul Krassner as Youth International Party organizer, "Super-Joel" Tornabene.[18]) " (*psst* they are talking about the blonde dude)
They didn't wait for a bad article or a writer to make fun of them. They went to the Pentagon protested the fuck out of it and when they came out with rifles the put FLOWERS in them. How possible could that be if we did that?
What if we stopped hating each other for things and stopped blaming each other for things and trying to get each other to donate to a cause and just said
"How can I help you?"
I know, I hear a lot of "but what about me?" "what about my problem?" Let's just stop for a moment.
The only way to help oursleves is to help each other.
Example: I love Wonder Woman I love her comics. I still buy them and when I am done I give them to shelters. I buy the trades or Trade paperbacks & keep those. Now here is a funny thing. THEY NEVER HAVE WONDER WOMAN SHIRTS FOR MEN. EVER! Is it because they suspect that men don't like it? I dunno. I mean they have batman & superman shirts for girls as well as adult women. Is it ok for for girls to look up to men but boys not up to women? Would fighting for shirts in men sizes be a step towards boys being able to access stuff to show their pride of having a female role model? Sure it sounds far fetched but is it?
Think about this.
Tomboy=aww she wants to be tough like boys. maybe she will grow up to be a lesbians bawhahahaha!
See here is one thing that quells any any argument of manliness. When a woman says that's hot.
Bottom line. It happens tie & time again. Those male allies that aren't believed are justified by you.
You become the proof positive in those ogres minds by saying that person A is mating material in it's most primitive sense. You've seen it.
The hottest girl in school says she likes smart guys: EVERY BOY GOES TO STUDY HALL.
In a collective wave...my god..
Imagine a million men saying "Hey! How come sport X isnt co-ed?"
I would love to see co-ed sports. and I don't mean just billiards, golf, or bowling but vs. sports like baseball, hockey, and tennis? I know Venus can serve t up and slam down most if not all of the men on the pro circuit.
It's crazy she isn't allowed to prove it. They say Danica Patrick is an anomaly. I think that's BS and in the coming years we will see more & more women in sports.
But we got to support them as well even if we don't like the sport or hobby.
Because we missed some awesome bisexual moments.
Yes...those are kids asking women out. There are girls there wanting to go out with wonder woman just as badly as the boys and yes this is a scan from an actual DC Comic.
Folks we are dropping the ball.....BADLY!
We are worried about some TV show (GLee) when we have THE icon of female superheroes in one of the most key moment and possible ventures of her having a female partner by encouraging the writers...we blew it.
You know as well as I do that money talks. Yet year after year the editor in chief has to convince the shareholders that Wonder Woman even though her comics aren't selling for shit to keep making them because he recognizes the importance of visibility. Fellas, why aren't YOU asking to see more female representation in the things you like?
You're a basketball fan? Support the WNBA. Buy tickets and a jersey. Why should you do it? Because maybe one day you can say "Hey! That's my daughter that dunked on Shaq Jr!" How awesome does that sound?
My son is an interior decorator.
My daughter is a mechanic
My father is a teacher at a daycare
My mom runs the IT Dept at UBS
It starts with simple things. Like allowing your son to respect women by making sure he can look up to one. To play with "girl toys" or "Boy toys"
Choices
G.I. recruitment center OR A pony so utterly bisexual she is a unicorn!
SO again we have 2 choices
Well...you know I choose the ponies.
Why?
Thanks for being patient and as a reward...
PONIES! (yes this episode why Bronies say "Fuck Griffons"
SPecial thanks to @Lysana on Twitter for stating "You do realize the bi pony is a unicorn? As in a HBB*? SOMEONE knows". *Hot Bi Babe
