Bringing it back. WISDOM WEDNESDAY! May be NSFW.

Courage wolf liked he last post so much he wanted in again

Seriously guys and by guys I mean the men. He's pissed. He's tired of guys being afraid of being rejected. I mean...he threatened.. threatening me to read it to you. *sigh* here we go

   Look here you little fucks! You are afraid of telling people you are dating that you are bisexual, pansexual, potsexual, omnisexual, novasexual or whatever you shit fucks are calling yourselves nowadays? Then you don't deserve to fuck much less breed! Afraid they are gonna jump you after school by the monkey bars? Bring a bat ans some lube so you can smack their shit up. It's hard? Did I just hear you whine that it's hard? NO SHIT IS HARD! ANYTHING WORTH DOING IS HARD! My uncircumcised wolf dick is hard and it's worth doing you spineless sack of shit! 
  You think you got it bad? People use to get arrested for having gay sex.A-FUCKING-RESTED! You would have been certifiable insane. Yes..your half & half ass wold have been in Arkham with The Joker and Two-Face!  Don't play the martyr in this society! Ain't no tissue for ya brah! No one is shedding a tear! "But but Courage wolf Kurt said on Glee “Bisexual is a term that gay guys in high school use when they want to hold hands with girls and feel like a normal person for a change."   Well so the shit what? On Buddy TV dot com That neck-bearded bastard John Kubicek  said


"But more importantly, I learned that Kurt and I have something in common: we both think male bisexuality is a myth. Blaine's very brief experimentation with kissing girls prompted Kurt to defensively respond that "Bisexual is a term that gay guys in high school use when they want to hold hands with girls and feel like a normal person for a change." And I completely agree. 

Blaine's actions in this episode were ridiculous and, if anything, a dangerous message to send to gay teens. According to Blaine, the only way to know for sure that you're gay is to kiss a girl and see what happens. This flies against everything Glee has ever stood for in terms of being true to yourself. "

  So the shit what? You think life should be dictated by a bunch of fictional teenagers? Don't like it? Watch and support a better show!

If you don't want to watch that go make your own! Don't like view in the back of the bus? Walk Walk YOU BETTA WALK WALK

Lyrics

If you miss me at the back of the bus, and you can't find me nowhere. 

Come on up to the front of the bus, I'll be sittin' right there. 

I'll be sittin' right there, 

I'll be sittin' right there. 

Come on up to the front of the bus, 

I'll be sittin' right there. 

ill slap you right nowwwwww u little dog

If you miss me at the Mississippi River, and you can't find me nowhere. 

Come on over to the swimmin' pool, I'll be swimmin' over there. 

I'll be swimmin' over there, 

I'll be swimmin' over there. 

Come on over to the swimmin' pool, 

I'll be swimmin' over there. 

If you miss me at Jackson State, and you can't find me nowhere. 

Come on over to Old Miss, I'll be learnin' right there. 

I'll be learnin' right there, 

I'll be learnin' right there. 

Come on over to Old Miss, 

I'll be learnin' right there. 

If you miss me at the picket lines, and you can't find me nowhere. 

Come on down, to the jailhouse, I'll be roomin' over there. 

I'll be roomin' over there, 

I'll be roomin' over there. 

Come on down to the jailhouse, 

I'll be roomin' over there. 

If you miss me at the cotton fields, and you can't find me nowhere. 

Come on down to the court house, I'll be votin' right there. 

I'll be votin' right there, 

I'll be votin' right there. 

Come on down to the courthouse, 

I'll be votin' right there. 

If you miss me at the back of the bus, and you can't find me nowhere. 

Come on up to the front of the bus, I'll be sittin' up there. 

I'll be sittin' up there, 

I'll be sittin' up there. 

Come on up to the front of the bus, 

I'll be sitting' up there

So you wanna keep watching keep complaining that no one is gonna take you seriously, that no one is gonna accept you? Git from the back of the fucking bus and go walk proud!

Well, Tell us how you really feel, Courage Wolf! DAMN! 

To fight for your right to party OR Party for your right to fight?

   This isn't the original post I was going to have for everyone. I was working on a piece of how Wonder Woman can save masculinity (next time) but then I had to write about this. OK, I am getting ahead of myself. Let me start from the beginning. A week and change ago I was on my way to the Mid-Manhattan Library. I had my freshly charged iPod ready to drop off some books and start my work day. Then I stumbled upon this sticker on a newspaper stand.

Yeah....I said the same thing. WTF indeed. So as I picked up my cellphone and took a picture. I took a few just to make sure it was in focus and centered. Yes, I was and still am extremely angry. What angered me most wasn't just the fact that it attacked my race & my sexual identity. Not even that it also looked like it they did studies (not really but when someone sees a mathematical figure such as "14 times as likely..." they are inclined to believe it) It was the fact that I can not dispute these facts. Because I am that which is attacked. It wouldn't be credible. I mean the same would go for you as a bisexual woman. But I have to tell you fine readers, the target audience was that of the self identifying hetero cisgender female. In other words people, not us. We are the people they are warning about.

   First thing first, the site & organization is ran by  some white supremacist publisher. No surprise there but if a person didn't look it up for themselves they might be inclined to believe it. user really? Yeah I am gonna go off on a tangent a lot. Because as I write this I am ...stumped.. to quote LeBron James "What should I do?"

        I personally cannot do anything. 

No man can do anything

No woman can do anything either.

What should I do? What should we do?

How do we fight for ourselves?

  Short answer: We can't. We need to fight for one another.

Ladies & gentlemen, we need to work together.   For us to say anything would fall upon ears of disbelief. We are your brothers & your sisters, the pain may be different from mine from his , from hers but if we do not put away petty differences of who suffers more and who has it worse we are gonna gonna have our asses fed to us on a silver platter with Old Bay Seasoning and the Lawry's seasoning salt. That's right all over it. 

    We don't do anything together. Have you noticed that? There are thing for gays and lesbians. Things for lesbians and bisexual women. Things for gay and bisexual men but there is nothing out there for bisexuals in comparison. There is a new bar called Bi-Bar that is opening over in California which is so needed. There has been some bisexual speed dating here and there. 

   There is also celebrate bisexuality day which oddly enough I never found anything to do on that day with other bisexuals. Other than some sort of support group and to tell you the truth kids, they depress me. They depressed me so much that I had to get away from the hole scene for about a year. Seriously, there were other reasons too but nothing wanted me to come back and get together. Ok, there are a lot of groups that are needed. I'd say all of them are actually. But after that, What do we do?

We have been fighting the fight for ourselves and not each other. We fight and we fight hard. We are capable of some really awesome stuff. But once we are out what do we do? we cheer when someone comes out but after that we go back to what?  To sit around, eating punch and pie wandering what to do so that others can accept us for the millionth time? 

The Punch is Jonesboro delight

  

  Don't get me wrong I love my straight sisters too..in fact..all of my brothers and sisters across the spectrum of sexuality and gender identification. But one thing we have to do is show people that we are not spin-off. We don't need their attention. You know what..we shouldn't even be concerned with it. How many bisexual do you know that you just chill with. No marching, no picketing, someone else who is not gay or straight hell asexual, genderqueer, and chill. Maybe party a little bit at the club. Doing something that doesn't have an agenda for a seat at the big queers table ask asking Aunt Mary for a slice of that rainbow pie. 

                 If you are bi friendly supporter, ask your bi fiends what are they gonna do for bisexuality day.
Doesn't matter what spectrum of sexuality. Gay, lesbian, straight, asexual, etc.  Make them think about it. Join them. There should be some grand party in every city. We should burn and bury all the old ways of "dealing with" our sexuality and freaking own our sexuality Take the our fears and burn it and celebrate everywhere. Our gender identity, our sexual identity, genderqueer, asexual, and celebrate. Get together with people who will join us, join you in celebrating ourselves and who we are. We should let the ghosts of desiring acceptance be free.

"and I'm Hayden Christensen!" oddest moment in a movie.

When I first started writing this I had this "let us come to arms thing...I had this totally different angle ...but it got tiring.. it is tiring. Always fighting for acceptance. It's one of the reasons I took a hiatus from all the activism stuff. I saw so many older bisexual activist single and tired. Not all tired and not all single. And after a while it just got to me. I just saw myself being alone and let me tell you something folks. Alone is not what I saw in my future. So I bailed. I hurt people in the process. Damn fine people. People that were counting on me. Some were mentors and others were people that could have been something really special. (If you are one of the people and think you know who I am, I'm sorry but a better apology shall soon come.( I was scared of their life and I got selfish. I forgot all of the tenants I spoke and did everything I stood against. I was gonna run off to a country on the opposite side of the equator be with some chick (she was a nice girl who in all honesty should have and hopefully is with someone that was a better fit) and (didn't see it like that at the time but,) luckily my S.A.D. or Seasonal Affected Disorder kicked in. 

 So I became the offspring of a one night stand between Morrisey & Robert Smith. I was frozen. I stopped doing things which were not only harmful to myself and others but also helpless to myself and others. It's something I could only wish on the most vile of enemies. It took me about a years and change to get out of this horrific depression. I am still dealing with it day by day. As I deal with this with a day by day approach the goals that I have for the community becomes more refined. I see the goals which were of yesteryear becoming obsolete and stale. It was great for my predecessors and barely for my generation of bisexuals but for the next group it won't work for them. It's as effective as a geocities webpage.  

   

  The next generation or Generation Y doesn't have the same problems as we had. We Gen X kids just got our hands on the Internet and we found out that we weren't alone. We found out that the choices given to us in antiquated books were not true. there was such thing as bisexual and that there was a scale. One of many things neglected by our all wise and powerful health teachers in high school. We just got this wonderful thing called America Online and we were connecting,finding allies and fighting for a slice of the pie and fighting against invisibility. It's now 2010 and the strategy is still the same...we still are fighting the same crap when invisibility is now an issue. We need to come together & show the youth that we are more than just fighting we are living. We are loving. We are being what our predecessors wanted. Alive.

  The only way to fight is to live. To party and celebrate that the only invisibility we have to worry about is from each other because we are some awesome people.

See you at the club!  I'll be drinking a Raspberry Mousse Margarita and a Tranny Chaser! ;) 

Take care, ABG

Who am I to say?

   It's Friday the 7th. Lucky 7. The first Friday of the year.  and if you followed me from Twitter then you probably know that it's Follow Friday. So...the question that you might have asked yourselves might be: Why should you follow me? Why should you give a damn about me?


   Honestly, I can' answer that. Sounds like a cop out but if anybody promises yo the world they are only going to shwo it to you they will never give it to you. But before you follow me you should probably know at least just who the hell I am. don't you think. Don't you want to know where I am going before you follow me?


  Hopefully you know that I am a man identified male. and that i identify as bisexual. Ok..now of course that isn't enough..there are a quite a few other blogs out there discussing  male bisexuality isn't there? right?

I mean other than those talking about how male bisexuality doesn't exist. Even though I am here. i think therefore I am right? Then there are those who believe that bisexuality does exist and that it's the


 There are a few that talk about the down low. I think we covered that earlier.

I can't be that surprised. She isn't sure if the earth is round or not either. Seriously..she isn't


However, there are even more who put on shows about the Down Low lifestyle. Which does speak with a lot of truth. Sad as it might be but, I gotta tell you..we are slowly defeating ourselves

And there are a lot of people that ..well...fuck...

It's not looking good folks.
and it makes sense why someone would still be on The Down Low

 But..there is hope and this hope is standing up for ourselves.

You see, when we as in ALL of us stand up together and we say FUCK YOU to those who would hold us back and deny us our sanity and ability to love fully and unapologetically!






  Follow me and I will do the most that I can with the power within me to make sure that you will never have to have..to do what THEY say or live the life THEY want you to live. You CAN live the way YOU want to live and I will help you... I will help you ..IF you are willing to help me.

Talk to me.

Cry at me..

Yell at me..

Do whatever it is that you feel you must do but let me know.

I cannot know who you are if you don't acknowledge. 

I am 1000% percent content with the ideology 

Of dying if it means that gender and sexual equality is there. 

I am willing to give MY LIFE for this.

To be deleted,

exponged,

shuffled off this mortal coil,

I AM READY AND WILLING TO DIE FOR YOU!

But you have to SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELVES!

SPEAK TO ME! 

SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELVES!

Tell me that you are there!

Tell me your problems your woes  your sorrows..

I am not a priest and I am not here to "absolve you of any sins"

Because I am not a priest and if it came to that passing and the one they call God would denounce me..

would shun me...

ME?

Me who they say has made me in his image then he may watch ME leave his presence.

Even in death I shall fight for you but in life right now I ask you...to speak.

You don't have to shout it out just yet if you can't

Just ...speak ..to me..

to a bisexual group..to someone you know that is bisexual.

So what do you get if you follow me..

I don't know...talk to me and let's start from there...

The hardest decision one can ever make: When to come out.

Hi folks.

I didn't get a chance to lay down the rules of etiquitte and such before we went live but I already got a letter so I figured since this was an  important question I would get right into it.

Usually I would ask you guys to come up with your own catchy signatures but since this person used their real name I am gonna make it theirs.

Hi. My name is ______ and I live in  *Censored Urban Area* and I am talking to this girl I really like and I want to tell her that I'm bisexual but I don't want to scare her off. How do I tell her without scaring her away?

Well  right now guy I am gonna call you ....Sam. I just saw a marathon of episodes of Supernatural online so I am gonna Sam so accept it.

Ok , Sam, with the vast amount of knowledge, wisdom, and cosmic radiation and gamma rays I have gathered in my years I will not only be honest, I will be honest in being honest with you.

There is no perfect way to tell her. None. Nada. If she leaves. Now there are different ways of telling her.
But before you do have you thought of what will happen after you tell her?
What I am trying to ask is how "Out" are you?
Does your parents and friends know?
 Is there anyone that she knows that you know that you do not want to know?
Dangers from the community
Loss of job
Alienation and lost of personal living arrangement and even job.

It may sound like I am bringing up the worst scenario but these are things I am sure (hope) you thought of before coming out.

She might think of her safety and risk of HIV and such because she heard of "The Down Low"

Now if you haven't heard of it I am sure one of her friends has heard of it and told her and before she gets into a tizzy make sure you can respond with this

Science, bitches.

So let's say she doesn't believe that. Not much else you can do. Now let's get back into HOW to tell her.

Tell her honestly and tell her WHY you didn't tell her in the first place. She may feel that you lied to her and that you hid something that YOU were ashamed of while in fact it was just fear. She may and probably will run through a lot of scenarios in her head or she will be cool with it and say she knows already and to pass the Slim Jims. Who knows?

It's usually easier in the beginning. How do you tell on a first date? Do it like the late great Richard Jeni suggest. Using a Damn Card Table

I know Bosco too!!!

I use humor because well..that's me. I like humor. I've been told I'm funny I am funny. I use humor. It's what I got. It's what I use. You.. I don't know. I don't really know you and I won't pull a Dr. Phil-of-himsef to think I can give you the perfect advice. You know her. You deep down inside know hot to tell her. Tell her the way you know how in the way you think SHE deserves to hear it. Because in reality you didn't come out to her in the beginning but AH-HA! She didn't come out as straight either! HA! Take that Status Quo! Let's see if she buys that. 

Oh and on a side note: Don't wait to tell her after Valentine's day because you know she is gonna get you a present because that is just the fucker's way of doing things. 

There is absolutely no way to be perfect about it. Just be honest. She is gonna have questions. Such as:

Why didn't you tell me before?

Does this mean you want to see men on the side now?

Are you or have you cheated on me?

Do you have AIDS?

Who else knows?

Have you slept with *insert male friend's name here in which you hang out with*?

Do you think about guys when you fuck me?

Were you with a guy before we met?

Did you ever mess with a guy when we first started dating?

Do you look at guys when we are walking?

and many... MANY more will be floating in her head I guarantee it.

Now since you told her you are now the ambassador of everything bisexual to her.

Congrats motherfucker! 

How can that not be somewhere around a 3 on the Kinsey scale?

You may feel like this

Queer Wolf

And you think she sees this

OH GOD! It's The Dan Savage Squad!

And you feel the world is gonna treat you like this.

Just remember these two things:

And not a single ripple left behind

Ain't nuthin' you can do but keep soaring

and to quote a transgender friend of mine.

Insert fish joke here.

"Show that fish what's up!"

If you are gonna be an open bisexual man still be a fucking man and don't apologize and still love her. 

Since you can love openly she can do the same. If she can't then ask your this important question. The only question that needs to be answered.

Who do you love more?

Her or yourself?

Cuz no matter what happens if you can't love yourself enough to be honest why should she love you.

There are a lot of reasons to NOT tell her but there is only one reason that there is to tell her.

Because you want to be fucking free.

Because censorship belongs in children's movies not in real life

Because you deserve the right to be yourself 

Because she deserve to know who she is loving and how truly fucking awesome you are.

and most importantly

Because you shouldn't have to

OK there is more than one. 

Fuck you.

With much fucking love,

The Bisexual Guy

I am sure that there are other people that have their own reasons why or why not people should and shouldn't come out. Go ahead and comment. Become a follower, tweet this bitch, and let me and "Sam" in on that sage like advice you got.