Who am I to say?

   It's Friday the 7th. Lucky 7. The first Friday of the year.  and if you followed me from Twitter then you probably know that it's Follow Friday. So...the question that you might have asked yourselves might be: Why should you follow me? Why should you give a damn about me?


   Honestly, I can' answer that. Sounds like a cop out but if anybody promises yo the world they are only going to shwo it to you they will never give it to you. But before you follow me you should probably know at least just who the hell I am. don't you think. Don't you want to know where I am going before you follow me?


  Hopefully you know that I am a man identified male. and that i identify as bisexual. Ok..now of course that isn't enough..there are a quite a few other blogs out there discussing  male bisexuality isn't there? right?

I mean other than those talking about how male bisexuality doesn't exist. Even though I am here. i think therefore I am right? Then there are those who believe that bisexuality does exist and that it's the


 There are a few that talk about the down low. I think we covered that earlier.

I can't be that surprised. She isn't sure if the earth is round or not either. Seriously..she isn't


However, there are even more who put on shows about the Down Low lifestyle. Which does speak with a lot of truth. Sad as it might be but, I gotta tell you..we are slowly defeating ourselves

And there are a lot of people that ..well...fuck...

It's not looking good folks.
and it makes sense why someone would still be on The Down Low

 But..there is hope and this hope is standing up for ourselves.

You see, when we as in ALL of us stand up together and we say FUCK YOU to those who would hold us back and deny us our sanity and ability to love fully and unapologetically!






  Follow me and I will do the most that I can with the power within me to make sure that you will never have to have..to do what THEY say or live the life THEY want you to live. You CAN live the way YOU want to live and I will help you... I will help you ..IF you are willing to help me.

Talk to me.

Cry at me..

Yell at me..

Do whatever it is that you feel you must do but let me know.

I cannot know who you are if you don't acknowledge. 

I am 1000% percent content with the ideology 

Of dying if it means that gender and sexual equality is there. 

I am willing to give MY LIFE for this.

To be deleted,

exponged,

shuffled off this mortal coil,

I AM READY AND WILLING TO DIE FOR YOU!

But you have to SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELVES!

SPEAK TO ME! 

SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELVES!

Tell me that you are there!

Tell me your problems your woes  your sorrows..

I am not a priest and I am not here to "absolve you of any sins"

Because I am not a priest and if it came to that passing and the one they call God would denounce me..

would shun me...

ME?

Me who they say has made me in his image then he may watch ME leave his presence.

Even in death I shall fight for you but in life right now I ask you...to speak.

You don't have to shout it out just yet if you can't

Just ...speak ..to me..

to a bisexual group..to someone you know that is bisexual.

So what do you get if you follow me..

I don't know...talk to me and let's start from there...

The hardest decision one can ever make: When to come out.

Hi folks.

I didn't get a chance to lay down the rules of etiquitte and such before we went live but I already got a letter so I figured since this was an  important question I would get right into it.

Usually I would ask you guys to come up with your own catchy signatures but since this person used their real name I am gonna make it theirs.

Hi. My name is ______ and I live in  *Censored Urban Area* and I am talking to this girl I really like and I want to tell her that I'm bisexual but I don't want to scare her off. How do I tell her without scaring her away?

Well  right now guy I am gonna call you ....Sam. I just saw a marathon of episodes of Supernatural online so I am gonna Sam so accept it.

Ok , Sam, with the vast amount of knowledge, wisdom, and cosmic radiation and gamma rays I have gathered in my years I will not only be honest, I will be honest in being honest with you.

There is no perfect way to tell her. None. Nada. If she leaves. Now there are different ways of telling her.
But before you do have you thought of what will happen after you tell her?
What I am trying to ask is how "Out" are you?
Does your parents and friends know?
 Is there anyone that she knows that you know that you do not want to know?
Dangers from the community
Loss of job
Alienation and lost of personal living arrangement and even job.

It may sound like I am bringing up the worst scenario but these are things I am sure (hope) you thought of before coming out.

She might think of her safety and risk of HIV and such because she heard of "The Down Low"

Now if you haven't heard of it I am sure one of her friends has heard of it and told her and before she gets into a tizzy make sure you can respond with this

Science, bitches.

So let's say she doesn't believe that. Not much else you can do. Now let's get back into HOW to tell her.

Tell her honestly and tell her WHY you didn't tell her in the first place. She may feel that you lied to her and that you hid something that YOU were ashamed of while in fact it was just fear. She may and probably will run through a lot of scenarios in her head or she will be cool with it and say she knows already and to pass the Slim Jims. Who knows?

It's usually easier in the beginning. How do you tell on a first date? Do it like the late great Richard Jeni suggest. Using a Damn Card Table

I know Bosco too!!!

I use humor because well..that's me. I like humor. I've been told I'm funny I am funny. I use humor. It's what I got. It's what I use. You.. I don't know. I don't really know you and I won't pull a Dr. Phil-of-himsef to think I can give you the perfect advice. You know her. You deep down inside know hot to tell her. Tell her the way you know how in the way you think SHE deserves to hear it. Because in reality you didn't come out to her in the beginning but AH-HA! She didn't come out as straight either! HA! Take that Status Quo! Let's see if she buys that. 

Oh and on a side note: Don't wait to tell her after Valentine's day because you know she is gonna get you a present because that is just the fucker's way of doing things. 

There is absolutely no way to be perfect about it. Just be honest. She is gonna have questions. Such as:

Why didn't you tell me before?

Does this mean you want to see men on the side now?

Are you or have you cheated on me?

Do you have AIDS?

Who else knows?

Have you slept with *insert male friend's name here in which you hang out with*?

Do you think about guys when you fuck me?

Were you with a guy before we met?

Did you ever mess with a guy when we first started dating?

Do you look at guys when we are walking?

and many... MANY more will be floating in her head I guarantee it.

Now since you told her you are now the ambassador of everything bisexual to her.

Congrats motherfucker! 

How can that not be somewhere around a 3 on the Kinsey scale?

You may feel like this

Queer Wolf

And you think she sees this

OH GOD! It's The Dan Savage Squad!

And you feel the world is gonna treat you like this.

Just remember these two things:

And not a single ripple left behind

Ain't nuthin' you can do but keep soaring

and to quote a transgender friend of mine.

Insert fish joke here.

"Show that fish what's up!"

If you are gonna be an open bisexual man still be a fucking man and don't apologize and still love her. 

Since you can love openly she can do the same. If she can't then ask your this important question. The only question that needs to be answered.

Who do you love more?

Her or yourself?

Cuz no matter what happens if you can't love yourself enough to be honest why should she love you.

There are a lot of reasons to NOT tell her but there is only one reason that there is to tell her.

Because you want to be fucking free.

Because censorship belongs in children's movies not in real life

Because you deserve the right to be yourself 

Because she deserve to know who she is loving and how truly fucking awesome you are.

and most importantly

Because you shouldn't have to

OK there is more than one. 

Fuck you.

With much fucking love,

The Bisexual Guy

I am sure that there are other people that have their own reasons why or why not people should and shouldn't come out. Go ahead and comment. Become a follower, tweet this bitch, and let me and "Sam" in on that sage like advice you got.